10 Things Elegant Ladies Should Wear BUT DON’T

10 Things Elegant Ladies Should Wear BUT DON’T


Welcome back to my channel,
my dear elegant ladies! Today ladies, I am going to talk to you about those
things that elegant ladies should be wearing, but they don’t. And the
simple reason for this is ladies, if we take a look into reality
into the modern world today, then there’s a lot of etiquette
rules that are with us from the past. But actually, the modern world and the modern society
are breaking them more and more, then reality doesn’t look like that. It’s not really how elegant
ladies behave and dress. So let me start immediately
with number one. Elegant ladies should definitely be
wearing spanx if they are on the larger side, but we actually noticed
that a lot of elegant ladies, they skipped the spanx.
In my elite finishing school, I do tell my students that
spanx is so important. If you have something that needs
to be tucked in, use spanx, tuck it in. Because otherwise, how are you going to achieve that elegance
silhouette if everything is a little bit all over the place, right?
It makes total logical sense. The only problem with spanx is that
it’s ridiculously uncomfortable. I have a little bit of spanx
as well. I’m not going to lie. There are some times moments where I feel
incredibly bloated and I need to tuck my stomach in, especially,
if I’m going to go out at night. But Oh my God, to live through a whole night
wearing those horrible spanx, who likes it? It can also sometimes
ruin the whole experience. So it happens that you know what,
I’ll just take one for the team. I’ll just tuck in my stomach the entire
night rather than having to wear those horrible spanx. So that’s kind of
the first example. What I mean, elegant ladies should be doing this,
but if we really look into reality, a lot of people break the rules.
Now going to number two, and I did get a remark once when
I went to finishing school about this. So this is the rule ladies. A lady, an elegant lady should
never have bare legs. She should always be wearing
hosiery. So for instance, if you are going to have bare legs,
you have to wear nude hosiery. Now, one thing is for sure that
when it comes to business etiquette, then yes. For business, you have to do it because business is
business. It’s corporate environment. There are rules that should be followed
there because of certain dress code. But in our everyday life, when
we go out at night and so on, should we really be wearing
those nude stockings, especially if it’s warm outside?
Now, we’re in a modern world ladies, most women, they would only
wear nude hosiery if it’s cold, if it’s too cold, not to wear bare legs.
But majority of women, unless they’re, let’s say over 60 years old will not
wear hosiery because bare legs is nice. It’s beautiful. It’s a bit too strict to wear
hosiery in my personal opinion. So what I meant with finishing school is
that we actually had in our dress code at finishing school that we
could never wear bare legs. We always had to wear
hosiery. And let me tell you, we were talking about July month and
it was 35 degrees in Switzerland during this time. So I remember, I came to class once and I didn’t have
any hosiery and I was wearing a dress. So the teacher told me off and I remember
clearly because she told me no naked bottoms on your seat that is not hygienic
and it’s not pleasant for the other students. Okay, I get it. I understand,
it makes logical sense. But you know, ultimately majority of ladies break this
rule and it’s just the kind of society we’re in today. Maybe it’s a little
bit different from culture to culture, but in the culture where I’m from
in Europe and I think even the US, that’s usually the standard
practice people are bare legged. Let’s move on to number three and we
are going to talk a lot about jewelry in today’s video. There is this really common etiquette
rule that you should only wear diamonds in the evening. But if you really
look at high society women, you will actually see that nobody’s
really following that rule. If you have a beautiful diamond bracelet, then you are not only
going to wear it at night, you will also wear it sometimes
during day time or other occasions. It’s not really that strict and it don’t
necessarily think that if you ‘re wearing diamonds before 6:00 PM, you’re necessarily somebody who
is dressed in appropriately. No, of course, I would say coming all blinged
up for breakfast or lunch or salon might not necessarily say that you
have the best taste, in my opinion. Because it’s maybe a little bit
too much for that time of the day. But I think definitely having diamonds
in general doesn’t mean anything. It doesn’t mean that you are
not a lady. In our modern world, elegant ladies do amend the rules and if
we continue to number four and stay on the jewelry path, because this one actually goes a little
bit hand in hand with the previous one. There is this saying that for daytime, elegant ladies should be wearing pearls
and in the evening they can wear their diamonds. So this is again where reality
doesn’t look like this today. The women of today who are perhaps under
the age of 50 tend not to wear pearls at all. Of course, you can wear and you have some women
who do wear pearls and that works absolutely fine on them. But it’s very, very hard in today’s world to pull
off pearls without looking old and old-fashioned. I have pearls and I just
never end up wearing them. I feel extremely old-fashioned
when I wear them, which is a shame because I really
like the appearance of pearls. But I just cannot get
myself down to wear it. Maybe will change in the future, but I know for sure that that’s maybe
also another reason to why people break the diamond rule. Maybe pearls will
get back into fashion, but after all, it is such a classic and
timeless piece. However, I know that right now is not really the
high time for pearls and people are just not really wearing it
right now. By the way, some of these things that I’m
mentioning in today’s video, I have definitely listed
them in my free cheat sheet, How To Look Expensive on any budget. It’s a free cheat sheet for those who
want to save themselves both time and headache. And I have listed a lot of other
information in that cheatsheet that I’m actually not mentioning in this
video. So make sure you visit www.Classycheatsheet.com to download your free cheat sheet. Ladies, we have arrived to number five.
And there is a saying that if it’s cold, let’s say it’s after October, November month and it’s
already cold where you live, then you should not be wearing sandals. You have to only wear high
heels with closed toe. Open toe is for summer.
Okay, to some degree, I actually do agree with
this because it makes sense. You are going to be very cold and you
might feel a little bit awkward because if it’s almost snowing where you live and
you are arriving in the pair of sandals, open toes, not necessarily the
appropriate footwear. And ladies, I’m just referring now to high heels
because who would arrive at flat sandals in winter? But somehow with heels, we tend to think that it’s
more, okay. I don’t know why. Maybe because we go out at night and we
dress up and I don’t know. But I guess, what I’m trying to say is that elegant
ladies do cheat with this. I’ve seen, I’ve seen it over and over again and
this I’m really referring to at night. I haven’t really seen many people cheat
with this during the day because during the day would definitely look
much more awkward. But at night, because you are showing me be a little
bit more skin and having more of a nicer dress, you can get away
by wearing a sandal. This is definitely something that
I tend not to do. If I’m doing it, it’s really an exception and maybe, I didn’t have the right shoes to match
that particular outfit. Who knows? But it’s something I definitely avoid. But I just want to put it out there
that this does happen and if you have to break the rules, sometimes
you have to break the rule. It’s not the end of the world. The point of elegant transformation is
that you don’t start adopting bad habits and start going down into a negative
spiral that is not going to serve you. Number six, and this is very
much part of our modern society. So elegant ladies shouldn’t
be wearing sneakers at all. It’s kind of this impression. I don’t know why people have this
vision that elegant ladies have to be extremely rigid in a certain way and God
forbid that they would wear a pair of sneakers. I mean, okay, I really think that that’s
a little bit exaggerated. I am here teaching you elegance.
I am all about elegance, but what elegance is
turning into extremism? That’s when I start wondering, why do people have to go to such dramatic
extents? This is the case, ladies, again, in our modern society today, it is a sneaker society. I’m not saying that that’s my favorite
society and I’m not really pro all that because I think, people have definitely become way too
casual than we should necessarily be. But on the other hand, sneakers serves a purpose and everybody
deserves to be comfortable with their feet, especially if you
have to walk long distances. Who wants to go sightseeing all day
in a pair of uncomfortable pointy ballerina shoes? You will end up
bleeding from the blisters on your feet. I mean, that’s so unfair, right? It’s
really unfair being a woman then. Because men, they can walk around the sneakers all
day long and nobody’s judging them. But of course, I do think that there are
sneakers and then there are sneakers. There are sneakers that are much more
dressed up than others. For instance, I wouldn’t say that,
“Oh yes, elegant ladies, they definitely run around town
wearing Nike all day long.” No, we don’t want to go that
low as wearing Nike’s. We want to maybe have a nice pair of
leather clean sneaker that is kind of a hybrid between a sneaker
and the leather shoe. I love my Louis Vuitton
leather sneakers. As a result, I walk and use them a lot. I use
them definitely for sightseeing, so no blisters, thank God. And what I’m trying to say is that it’s
okay to wear sneakers if you style them properly. If maybe the rest of your outfit is much
more dressed up rather than wearing a massive Balenciaga hoody and
some sweatpants or whatever people wear these days. But it’s okay to be comfortable. Just make sure the rest of you
is somehow elevated and elegant, and just chic, just makes
you look not too scruffy. I guess that’s what I’m
trying to say. Number seven, there is also this dress
rule that an elegant lady, she doesn’t remove her
hat at the dinner table. So this is a very old-fashioned
rule because back in the days, women used to wear very
sophisticated hats. Hats that are more of a design purpose
rather than to keep their head warm. But some people misunderstand
that rule and think that, “Well maybe, I should be wearing my Maison
Michel outdoor hat when I’m sitting, having dinner inside a restaurant, just because I came with that hat and it
was my accessory with my outerwear.” No ladies. Let’s say if
we listen to that rule, they should be wearing their
hat at the dinner table. But actually, women take off their hats
today because the hats that we are wearing, they’re more, like I said,
to match our outerwear. Perhaps even the hat that
we would use on the beach, we wouldn’t necessarily sit
down and have food with it. Well maybe some do actually, but I think it’s a common sense
thing to remove your hat, especially if it’s on the larger
side when you’re sitting and eating. Definitely if you have a kind
of fascinator type of hat, then yes, you would keep it on.
You wouldn’t take it off. But I’m certainly not going to
eat with my Maison Michel hat at any point. That hat is made
to take off when I’m eating food. One more. No, okay, two more or
three. Number eight, the watch. So there’s also this rule that, elegant ladies should not be wearing her
watch at night because it’s rude to be watching your time or she
should be wearing only her jewelry like bracelets and things. But again, elegant ladies
don’t follow this rule. Majority of the times, a lot of women are
wearing their watches at nighttime and it’s not necessarily because
they lack skills and manners. It’s really because watches have become
more of a fashion accessory today and more also a statement piece than what it
was back in the days. Back in the days, it was truly to check
your time, so of course, maybe an elegant lady wouldn’t
be wearing a watch at all. But today things have
changed. Life has evolved. There are new trends and
new ways of living life. So you will be seeing women
wearing watches and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. The only time I would
say do not wear a watch, however, is if you’re going to very dressed up
event and you’re wearing a long dress, a gown, type of cocktail
party attire. Then yes, unless it’s like jewelry design watches. Those are an exception. I’m
talking now about regular watches. So number nine, and let’s talk about the cliche that we
keep talking about over and over again. An elegant lady should never be showing
any form of cleavage or should she? Okay. Now you’re like, but Anna is
now talking against herself. First things first, I still stick to my guns. I do believe that an elegant lady should
not be showing any cleavage because there’s just too much cleavage
in this world today. I’m sorry, but wherever we look, there’s
flesh, flesh, body parts. You know, I can’t take any more body parts,
just give me a break. Cover up. No, but this is the thing, ladies, there is an exception that I do
want to talk about. Number one, you can actually show a little
bit of cleavage. It’s fine. You don’t have to be covered up
to here to be an elegant lady. You can definitely show a little
bit of cleavage in an elegant way. What we don’t want to see is like the
kind of the sagging moments where we feel like we’re just staring into a person’s
bossom rather than into the person’s eyes. Ultimately, we want to see the
person, we don’t want to see flesh. You know, that’s the whole purpose
of this kind of cliche mantra. But there is an exception also and there
are certain women who are extremely conservative as their natural element
and they’re almost a little bit too proper, too strict, too tense. If I can describe this correctly and
somehow those women would actually benefit from showing a little
bit of cleavage. Ladies, I teach about balance here because
that is the winning formula. We don’t like too much of anything. If you go too much into the
world of being conservative, then okay can definitely work.
So I’m not saying it’s bad. But what I’m saying is that it can often
time benefits you to just add a little bit of the opposite to your existing
ensemble to just balance things up a bit. Now what happens then is that
opportunities might arise up for you. You might discover new energy in
yourself that you didn’t think you had. You might even transform yourself to
somebody that you should become or you would benefit of becoming. So there are benefits to when somebody
should be spicing themselves up a notch and not just be little miss proper. And the God forbid if she
shows a tiny bit of skin. It’s okay, it’s fine to show a little bit of
skin if it’s done with good taste, not too much, and not having to
put everything on display here. That’s not what we want. Number 10 ladies,
and we have reached the last point. The last point is elegant ladies
should be dressed for their age. But actually, if you
look at today’s society, you will really see that people actually
oftentimes dress the opposite for their age and it’s absolutely fine. So a common thing that I’ve noticed is
that a lot of the times, younger people, they like to dress themselves
a little bit older, maybe because they want to be taken
more seriously. And a lot of the times, older people, maybe older women like to dress themselves
a little bit more younger so that they don’t have to reveal
their age too much. And I really think that in these
situations, it’s absolutely fine, as long as you make you
work for yourself. Again, when it really doesn’t work is when it’s
done in bad taste. When for instance, older women are running
around with like mini dresses, like mini bodycon dresses and they really look like old teenagers. And that just looks a
bit too much, you know? Or if you have a really young
girl who looks like a grandma, that’s also not really in benefit for her. So it’s really about your own balance, what works for you and your goals,
and your preferences and so on. The point that I’m trying
to make, that it’s fine. And if you need to balance something
out for some reason then that is your choice and you have the
right to that choice. So you shouldn’t be listening
to those things. But again, just do everything with good
taste and don’t go all in. That’s all I’m trying to say. Ladies, don’t forget to get your
free cheat sheet at. www.Classycheatsheet.com And of course, I hope you have watched my best
performing video on this channel. 10 Things Elegant Ladies Never Wear. If you still haven’t heard me
talk about those yoga pants, then now is the time. Ladies,
I will see you in that video.

100 thoughts on “10 Things Elegant Ladies Should Wear BUT DON’T”

  • Thank you for watching! Which rules do you know and which ones do you like to break? And if you still haven’t watched my related video 10 Things Elegant Ladies NEVER Wear! Then go ahead and watch it now: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-TF0mxGZHKM&list=PLLtTVHnRmkJkulziRD_BQpOSdQ04BOwic&index=7

  • I really respecto you and your channel but uktimately one ens UP wearing after the example and different places have different rules and times change but a classic is always a classic

  • Pearls for me are are business attire. I wear them at corporate events with my sheath dress for a finished look. I purchased each individual pearl many years ago and had them strung, but most people would not have a good ideal how valuable my pearl necklace in terms of cost, many diamond necklaces are far less expensive. I have a emerald and a ruby necklace that I would wear at more posh gatherings. I live in California where the weather is decent year round, so the majority of women go without any type of stockings. I usually wear opaque hose if it is a closed toe shoes,. Ladies if you wear open toed shoes, you must have pedicures year round.

  • @School Of Affluence- I am brand new to your channel and I genuinely couldn't be more thrilled to have found you. ♡ You are a brilliant example of the compelling beauty and irrefutable power that radiates from a proudly feminine woman. I deeply appreciate your obvious desire to be honest and transparent when giving advice, even when it may be an unpopular stance in modern female culture. I very much look forward to the day when women will once again realize that being a confident, feminine woman is something to celebrate and take pride in. To me, that is what being an actual feminist should mean- overwhelming pride and confidence in the value and magic of being a feminine woman.
    To sum it up, you are very appreciated and a new, exciting source of inspiration, as I continue my journey towards the relationship, lifestyle, and future I desire for myself! Thank you, again ♡

  • Hosiery is quite outdated. Here in California, women don’t wear hosiery at work in professional offices and I work in corporate banking. We have mild winters here though.

  • With all vintage trends nowadays pearl's are back and don't look "old lady" anymore. I used to avoid them for that reason but they really add class to your look.

  • i got a pearl necklace and watch for christmas and still havent worn it yet. who wears pearls anymore. maybe ill just save it for when im older🤷🏽‍♀️

  • So #9 literally states that the Kardashians are exluded from elegant society for showing a LOT of their flesh…

  • “An old teenager.” I remember a science (genetics) professor from college, in her 50s, who used to dress like a 10 year old. Well tweens and teens these days dress up better than her I guess. She wore sequined and laced colorful tops and neon tees. Laced long and short skirts and printed colorful leggings. Also wore a lot of coral and pink blush and thick eyeliner. And to top it off, multicolored embellished glasses and big, chunky plastic jewelry. I’m 30 now and still can’t get her out of my head.

  • i usually love ana's looks but this one, with the purple shiny top, big earrings and bold lipstick, was a bit too much and didn't fit her (in my opinion)

  • I got inspired about pearls again after watching The Crown. Hahaha! But I've been wearing mine around my house only. I agree with you Anna.

  • Hi Anna, lets have some fun, how about you open shein app and choose 5 outfit that can wear elegantly. Thanks a lot 💜😗

  • #10 ~ good luck trying to restrict, it is a personal taste thing. We need to allow ourselves more fun and freedom, life can be heavy enough. You are right to use the word balance. I agree with using cleavage sparingly! Evening, swimsuits, very hot days, and bedtime! Sneakers, can be leather and coloured, to lift their status. A walking shoe can be your friend while travelling. Nobody wants blisters. Hosiery, can be unpleasant, so I like tights, textured ones, with different fibres & weights, and stay-up stockings, with beautiful wide lace tops if going sheerish, and the weather is hot, I think it's the bulk around the top of tights I dislike. I like different types of above the knee socks to wear with boots. It depends on the fibres used, as to how comfortable you can be. Good luck trying to part me from my diamonds anytime! Pearls I just add when the mood is right! I have the dark grey Tahitian ones are formal, and chunky white fresh water pearls from Asia, I love that they are huge and irregular. They look nice with a white shirt, or a navy velvet track suit. And some laser coloured pink ones, I add funky pendants to those. We must have fun and always feel at home in our skin, and our attire.

  • Hello Anna! I would also love to see, how we can be sustainable and elegant at the same time! I just startet shopping Vintage/2nd Hand and I’m partly struggling to find the balance.

  • Truly elegant ladies always shine: confidence and kind behaviour are the épitomé of true beauty. Clothes definitely do not make a lady. A real lady can “pull off” a bin bag!

  • Why do people say she chases rich men ? I think she has her own job, business. She is independent. Whats wrong in wanting to be a part of high society? And trying to approach some dreams? Women invest so much in relationships. I think they should expect to be taken care of!

  • I have a question Anna, what about gloves, should we wear them or not and when should we remove them plus when should we wear them?

  • visuals that correspond to the different types of ladies, outfits, degree of visibility of breasts would have been great

  • I love Spanx and hosiery and pearls! Does that make me old fashioned! No! It’s how you style it! Sneakers are a must when there is a lot of walking.

  • Tights aren't made to fit short people. Last thing I need is tights pulling my underwear down. They just end up sweaty and feeling unhygienic and gross at the end of the day. They are also not weather appropriate in any kind of weather. I had to wear them in Catholic school for the winter uniform even though they were not warmer than the knee high socks. They also tear easily and then they look like trash. And if they don't do that they are probably crazy expensive and still not worth the money.

  • Love the video and I really love your blouse😍 can you do a video on older women dressing younger do’s and don’t’s iam pretty sure I’ve been found guilty of some don’ts

  • This is sooo refreshing. Sometimes things can get a little militant, so it's nice knowing that there is room for occasion fashion faux pas.

  • Dear Anna, I want to say that you are really carrying all your new colored clothes so beautifully. To bad I don't have a skintone close enough to yours so that I can steel the idea's from you, but have to figure it out as I go along. Well really, due to medical issues I rarely leave my home and most time when I do, I go to some doctor's appointment.
    Here is a tip. Do not dress up for the doctor. This includes makeup as well. You can still be elegant, just don't dress up for the visit. Being elegant is so much more than the clothes, as you well know. If you do make an effort, the doctor will take one look at you and surmise that you are all better now. They will decide that you can't possibly need anything now when you look so well and healthy, so why am I in their office, and they will do anything and everything they can to get you out the door. This is not conducive to receive the help that you actually do need, or you would not be in their clinic in the first place. This is especially important if you are dealing with chronic conditions and need special treatments and medications that should be given restrictively. You need to look very run down and, to be blunt, look sick in those situations.
    So now if you ow have come to the conclusion that I don't own many nice things to wear, you are right. Most nice things will be destroyed when you have to spend most of your time in bed. I love window shopping though, and I love beautiful things. I just don't buy them.
    I have a hack, I believe it's called, for getting back to wearing your pearls if yo want to. Wear them with your very casual outfits. Wear them with your distressed jeans and sweater or shirt out to Sunday Brunch, or with your shorts and sneakers. Do that and your lovely pearls soon won't feel so "elderly lady" anymore and the pearls will thank you for it, as they need skin contact regularly to look their best. Just avoid spraying perfume or hairspray on them, and you are good to go.
    Here is a fun fact and then I'm done and everybody can breath again. Do you know that back in the late 19th century and into the 1910's (the Victorian- and Edwardian eras) when the ladies of every social class still wore corsets, they wore padding either inside their regular dress bodices, on the corset protector even or sewn onto the actual corset to round off their silhouette and camouflage the line were the corset stoppes and the body doesn't really begin just yet. They could also cover that area with a kerchief with their day dresses, and for the evening dresses they put lots of lacy frilly things on the dress bodice and showed a just a little bit of skin.
    Other than that I think Spanx were invented by the Spanish Inquisition and should be treated with great suspicion. There must be a better way… Yours, Ann

  • I strongly disagree about your opinion on pearls. A lot of young fashionable classy women wear pearls. It depends on the style. Pearls are elegant especially the gem quality ones like South sea pearls.

  • This association of sexiness with showing all skin is absurd. Sexy is a confidence factor. I am not slut shaming anybody but people don't understand this difference.

  • When I was little I learned from my mother and grandmother to always wear hosiery, apart from the times when you wear sandals. Never wear hosiery with sandals! So there you go: in the summer we go bare legged because of the sandals, and in the rest of the year we wear hosiery.

  • Yes, so true, I also break this rules in similar way. Just when I was very young I was more observant to rules. And the thing with bare legs – I heard so many opinions… 20+ years ago it was no, no, but now some stylist say it´s absolutely inaccessible to wear fleshtoned stockings. So I go with weather in winter with and in summer without them.

  • I see women in the dead of winter wearing dresses with no pantyhose or tights. Just looking at them makes me cold lol
    You can wear pearls but I think it needs to look modern. Like instead of a string of pearls maybe just a pearl pendant necklace.

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